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Emotional tears help the body get rid of toxins that we accumulate due to stress and worry.The same does not happen when tears are induced due to non-emotional reasons, such as cutting an onion, tear gas or stinging eyes. The same study also reported that women cry four times more often than men. We all know women cry more easily than men do. Women live with their emotions, while men keep them bottled up. But did you know that just as a man finds it tough to shed tears, an infant too, cannot shed tears in the first three months of its life? Men are likely to cry a few times a year, whereas most women cry at least once a month. I am reminded of what a character says in a long-forgotten novel I read years ago, “A woman needs to shed some tears and blood every month in order to stay happy.”

People are often encouraged to “have a good cry” when upset. Crying for an extended period tends to have a cathartic effect and makes you feel better. However, people who are depressed or have anxiety disorders, or even those lacking emotional insight, do not feel good after crying. It has also been found that crying is likely to have a more positive impact when conducted in the company of at least one more person rather than all alone. The support of a loved one or friend as you cry makes you feel much better.  

When a person is overwhelmingly stressed, his or her heart rate increases and the body begins to sweat. Also, crying slows the breathing and has a calming effect, thus countering the body’s negative state.

It is now far more acceptable for a man to cry than it was earlier. Youngsters consider male tears socially acceptable now but sadly, there is still a majority of people especially woman who thinks its "gay-ish" for men's to shed tears. Not at all. Personally, when a guy shed's his tears in front of me, my respect,love and care towards him increases rapidly. Why not? Woman's shed tears everywhere, every time. Men's shed their tears only before people they love dearly. I see no appropriate reason for one to disrespect a man who cries. Stop being such hypocrites & stereotypes. 

I find it totally alright for a men to cry in certain situations. Such as: 

1. The death of a loved one. There are few things more painful than the thought of separation from those dearest to our hearts.

2. The death of your beloved pet. A pet can feel like a member of the family. Whether a horse or dog, the bond between a man and his faithful animal runs deep.

3. When you first see the new life you and your wife created. Many a man has found himself choked up as they cradle their newborn son or daughter.

4. When you propose to the love of your life and she says yes. This should be one of the happiest days of your life. You found your best friend.

5. At the altar as you get married. Everyone in attendance loves to see the husband-to-be get a little misty-eyed as his blushing bride walks down the aisle.

6. When your beloved car or truck, especially your first one, gets totaled. There’s a bond between a man and his wheels that when severed, can really sting.

7. Visiting sites that pay tribute to those who laid down their lives for others. Whether running your fingers over the names at the Vietnam War Memorial or watching the oil leak from the sunk USS Arizona, contemplating the sacrifices made by your fellowman should make you tear up.

8. Describing a really spiritual experience. Feeling touched by a higher power can be really affecting.

9. As an athlete, after the final game/match/event that you will ever play in. You’ll never be in as good shape again. You’ll never experience this level of camaraderie again. You’ll never push yourself so hard every day. Go on and let it out.

Men cry mostly when a family member dies, when they watch a sad movie or TV show or when a girlfriend breaks up with them. Women cry over conflict, loss and empathy over another’s suffering. All in all, it’s OK to let it all out once in a while.

And, its never okay to cry in few other situations either. Here: 

1. When you favorite sports team loses. Devotion to your team is respectable. Turning into a blubbering mess when they lose, not so much.

2. When those around you are looking to you as a source of calmness and strength.Sometimes your loved ones need you to be a rock.

3. To the point of irrational thinking or paralysis when you have a job to do. I wanted to strangle Upham in Saving Private Ryan when he cried in the stairwell while his fellow soldier was being killed. When you have a job to do, get it together.

4. When you don’t get your way. Little boys cry when they don’t get what they want. Men are disappointed, but resilient.

5. When you’re frustrated. Crying because your overwhelmed and don’t know what to do is a cop out. You don’t have the strength to think of a solution, so you cry so you don’t have to think at all. Man up and figure out your next move.

6. In baseball. There’s no crying in baseball! 

Everybody comes out cleansed from the experience, feeling they have achieved something. Tears somehow seem to produce a general sense of well-being and bonhomie. Guys, Its alright to tear. Its alright to tear in front of your special one. Its totally alright. If there are people who under-rates your tears, you know where they belong to in your way of life. Its never a sign of weakness. Its a sign that you're human. Its a sign that you've hold it all back for a long time. Its a sign to let it go now. Its a sign of self-love. Trust me on this. 

Guys who cried or cries, you're all still sexy beasts. Worry less.